If you ask parents if they enjoy dishing out discipline to their kids, the answer will always be "no" they do not enjoy it. After all it makes them feel bad and of course it makes the kid feel bad. You may be surprised at the attitude of some kids toward discipline..keep reading.
When you have to discipline your kid they want to know and understand what they are doing wrong that caused them to be punished. And as a parent, I am sure you think your kid understands what they did wrong and you don't need to explain it to them....wrong. Most kids have short term memory and most of the time do not even remember what they did to get your negative reaction. A yelling match and a spanking on the bottom without a "lesson to be learned" is nothing more than abuse.
The kids think it is the parent's responsibiilty to explain to the kid why they are being disciplined. I'm not stupid - I am sure the kids will argue that your explanation is stupid and they should not of been punished. However, if you ask kids (when they are calm and detached from punishment) they will tell you they want to know why did their parents react the way they did by punishing them.
Kids want to know their boundaries. When they overstep their boundaries and get disciplined, without a clear understanding as to why, the lesson is not learned and their unacceptable behavior will reoccur. Kids said they don't mind being disciplined as long as they know the "why". It just shows respect.
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